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Monday, November 10, 2014

What Happens to My Family Episode 25 Drive By Recap

Question of the hour: Poor Dal Bong, is he going to go crazy from being taught a lesson by both his dad and Seo Wool?
Episode 25
We back track a bit in this episode to when Daddy Cha meets with a judge to plead his case for filing a lawsuit against his children. Daddy Cha "I have never yelled or scolded my children in my life. Unfortunately, I have not taught them to be grateful for what they have. Now that I want to teach them and scold them, but they are all grown and I have no power. Please help me and allow me to use the power of the law."

Obviously Daddy Cha's words convinced the judge and all three siblings rushes home after receiving a lawsuit notice from the court.

However, Daddy Cha has chosen to disappear leaving a bewildered Auntie Cha to deal with his emotional kids.
With no available friends to seek out, Daddy Cha ends up having coffee with Miss Ko. The intimate little meeting is witnessed by Young Sul's husband which mean Young Sul and Auntie Cha finds out about Daddy Cha's date right away.

Young Sul is convinced that Daddy Cha's sudden change of behavior is due to Miss Ko but Auntie Cha is not convinced... but she seems a bit shaken in her conviction.
Kang Shim and Dal Bong finally sees Daddy Cha but could not get him to talk to them other then reasserting that he is firm in his decision to sue the three siblings.

Daddy Cha yells that after years of being ignored by his kids he is finally going to do whatever he wants. After yelling to his heart's content, Daddy Cha goes back to his room shaken from being able to say everything that has been piling up in his heart.
Kang Shim finally takes the time to figure out that Wook Tak is Daddy Cha's lawyer and marches right over to Wook Tak's office and throws the court notice in his face.

After Kang Shim storms out of Wook Tak's office, Tae Joo who followed Kang Shim by chance and heard the whole argument between the two decides to give Wook Tak a little warning of his own.

Dressed like some Asian maffia, Tae Joo warns Wook Tak "I will do what ever it takes to protect Kang Shim from you."
Marching to an epic Cantonese song (that is hilarious btw, that they chose to use a Cantonese song, I am assuming he is channeling Chao Yun Fat's movie mafia characters.), Tae Joo calls Kang Shim out and surprises her with an embrace and a declaration that he will be her shield.

Stunned as she watches Tae Joo leaves with a swagger, Kang Shim mutters "Why can't I be surrounded by normal men?"

Young Sul joins Kang Shim and snickers "There is no "normal" man. It is by living with women that the men become human." Ha Ha, I love Young Sul brand of relationship advice. 
As a favor to Seo Wool, Eun Ho pretends to take Dal Bong's offer of investment seriously and presents to a dumbfounded Dal Bong the restaurant investment contract. Dal Bong tries to back paddle now that he knows the inheritance money he counted on is probably not going to show, but Seo Wool and Eun Ho pretend to not understand him and just cheerfully pushes on with talks of the investment.

In reality, Eun Ho has set his eyes on Tae Joo as his chosen investor. Eun Ho shows up at Tae Joo's apartment uninvited, starts wolfing down Tae Joo's breakfast and tosses Tae Joo his investment report. Grumbling at having his breakfast stolen, Tae Joo is nevertheless impressed by Eun Ho's investment report.
With Seo Wool's help, everything is going really badly for Dal Bong. After getting yelled at by Eun Ho for backing out of his investment promise, Dal Bong finds out that the chef has also found someone to replace him in the kitchen. (In his excitement over the inheritance money, Dal Bong had proudly told the chef to find someone to replace him a couple weeks before.)

From a conversation between the chef and Seo Wool we find out that Seo Wool has actually promised the chef to take on Dal Bong's workload in order to teach Dal Bong a lesson.
The next morning, Kang Shim and Dal Bong gets an unpleasant surprise that Daddy Cha has forbid Auntie Cha to provide them with any food unless they start paying monthly fees for living at his house.

Thanks to a slip from Young Sul, Kang Shim confirms her suspicion that Miss Ko is the cause of Daddy Cha's sudden changes.

Auntie Cha tries to talk to Daddy Cha about his treatment of the kids, but Daddy Cha just coldly tell her "You need to choose which side you will be on. This is war now."

Overhearing the conversation between the two, Seo Wool chimes in that she is on Daddy Cha's side. Seo Wool assures Auntie Cha that someone like Daddy Cha who considers his kids as his whole world must have a good reason to do the things he is doing.
Wook Tak informs Daddy Cha that he has initiated their next stage of battle strategy: Garnishing Kang Shim and Kang Jae's wages. Since Dal Bong has no real income, then his possession are tagged by the court. 

Not a lawyer by any means, but at least in US, a judgement from the court is REQUIRED before some's wages can be garnished. At this point in the story, lawyers from both sides haven't even met yet, let alone seen the face of a judge, I am really puzzled how Wook Tak can possibly garnish the kids' wages. Wouldn't the Korea justice system be chaotic if it simply require the accuse to file a law suit to start garnishing the defendants' wage without ever going as far as a seeing a judge? 
The garnishment of their wages sends Kang Shim and Kang Jae running back home again. This time with the presence of Wook Tak, the kids are finally convinced that Daddy Cha is serious about taking them to court. 

Barely suppressing his anger, Kang Jae tells Daddy Cha "Fine, Father, we'll do it your way and take it all the way to court. But we will also use this opportunity to clean up our parent child relationship."

Daddy Cha "Fine, let's do that."


I guess is really war. Can I just say first that I feel really badly for Dal Bong. Out of the three kids Dal Bong is an innocent bystander that gets caught in the cross fire. Sure, he is a young man who really needs to learn how to be a good son BUT Seo Wool is teaching him and he does change whenever she yells at him to do better. Given time, I am pretty sure Dal Bong with Seo Wool's help would be a fine son. His greed over the inheritance is simply a mistake of youth and thoughtless thinking. Of course, now that Seo Wool has also taken it on herself to teach him a lesson I am sure things are going to get interesting. 

In this episode I think the writer is trying pretty hard to let the viewer know that Daddy Cha does have a reason for the lawsuit and is in fact using it as a teaching tool. I see what the writer is trying to get across but I still have a huge problem with the lawsuit. 

A reader comments in Episode 24 recap that he/she doesn't see anything wrong with Daddy Cha suing his kids and that comment really sent me back to the drawing board to try to figure out why I have such a problem with it. 

Let's start with what I wouldn't have a problem with:

  • Daddy Cha calmly tells his kids "Thanks for your suggestion about the store and house, but I am going to refuse your offer. By the way, you should know my feeling were really hurt because...." 
  • Daddy Cha writes the kids out off his will and does whatever he wants with his money and property. 
  • Tells Kang Shim and Kang Jae to stop thinking they can live at his house for free and start contributing or just simply kicks them out.
  • Tells his kids about all the pant up anger for how they treated him. 
Why I have a problem with the lawsuit:
  • Daddy Cha hasn't even tried talking to his kids yet. In his own words to the judge he has never scolded his kids so how does he know that his kids wouldn't change if he just tells them why he is disappointed in them and how he wants them to change?
  • Following the previous thought. Because a father has never bothered to teach his kids how to be grateful so now the court has to do it for him?? 
  • The lawsuit is not about Kang Jae's suggestion about the inheritance since that whole thing stopped the moment Daddy Cha refused the idea. So the lawsuit is about the kids being bad sons and daughter, therefore Daddy Cha is demanding all the money he spent on them after the age of 20. 
  • In another words, Daddy Cha is saying because you are not my ideal of how a son and daughter should act so any money that I spent on you on my own free will back in the days I want it back now. 
If a lawsuit such as this really go through then every parent and maybe every child would have cause to sue. Take one step further, anyone in any form of relationship would have a case on their hand if the other party (ie. spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend/ ex-bestfriend) is a disappointment to them. After all, a spousal relationship really has more teeth in this argument since a parent-child relationship does have to deal with the issue that if your kids turns out badly then a parent do have to bear some responsibility for not teaching them well. 

This lawsuit really is just one giant ball of confusion. How can one even define unfilial behavior? What if the next parent thinks a child who refuses to marry the person of their choosing or study the major of their choosing is being unfilial? This just seems like a giant nightmare for any country's court system. 

Anyhow, my rambling is done. So I will just say despite my disagreement with the lawsuit, I am still quite intrigued to see... well, what happens to the Cha family. 


  1. Oh my, after seeing the preview at the end of this episode.. Especially when Kang Shim screams at her father that the lawyer was basically the man who ruined his precious daughter's confidence to date and made her an old spinster...

    While there is some suspension of disbelief required regarding the lawsuit plot development in the past few episodes... I HAVEN'T BEEN THIS EXCITED BY A DRAMA IN A LONG TIME. Omo.

    1. I should totally take your view and stop whining about the lawsuit and just go with it. I am excited too to see what Daddy Cha would do to Wook Tak when he realizes the nice lawyer is the jerk that hurt his daughter so badly.

  2. "I have never yelled or scolded my children in my life. Unfortunately, I have not taught them to be grateful for what they have. Now that I want to teach them and scold them, but they are all grown and I have no power. Please help me and allow me to use the power of the law."

    I still don't get it. Based on this statement alone, I'd say he is pretty damn lucky to have the kids he have. Only 1 join a gang.. but then Dalbong is a sweet kid.

    It so odd that he imply that his kid is all grown up but isn't Korea, a country that have strict hierarchy? Even other Asian country traditionally uphold elderly..I maybe 20 or 40.. I think my parents will still straighten me up when needed.

  3. In china, there are lots of cases where parents sues their children for welfare.

    What would they get out of this will be real interesting

    1. I'm guessing it's gonna be a bit cliche. Like, the children will realise what they've taken granted from their dad, and feel sorry, and apologise, and then the lawsuit is cancelled. Doesn't make sense how Kang Jae will realise that but let's see how the writer will lead to that.

  4. I actually don't feel that sorry for Dalbong. He deserves to be 'punished' as much as Kangshim does. They are both good-hearted, but they've been educated wrongly and do need to change their ways.
    I just feel bad because he's being punished by Seowool as well, haha. Poor kid, 'abandoned' by his places of refuge.

  5. I agree that the lawsuit requires some suspension of belief. I think I'm "okay" with it in some ways because everyone around Daddy Cha tells him that his case will be hard because as you mentioned, it's difficult to define unfilial and demand momentary compensation. I have a soft spot for Daddy Cha (and Yoo Dong-geun) so I'm definitely biased. It would be nice if he could teach his kids a lesson through some other means because I personally think the writer/producers wanted the lawsuit in the plot just to be sensational.

    At least Tae-joo is an adorable dork, and I'm really enjoying his budding relationship with Eun-ho.

  6. Love Kang Seoul.

    In Korea a parent can sue their children for support in old age. That includes inlaws. In Korea famliy is on the hook for relatives debt. Even if the dad decided the money would go to a charity and not them, they might contest and win. I really think much makes sense. Monetary expectations are just different outside the US. If they can't remember their mother's death anniversary and can spend a single hour for that remembrance how are they going to be able to do anything they promised to do to take care of the father if they took all his assets. Honestly he talks to a woman for 20 minutes and are concerned about what it will cost them? From the son who is getting married no matter if they like it or not and the daughter who refuses to and the son who has a bride waiting for him if he would just grow up.

    What I do not understand is why the youngest was required to pay for the guys who beat him him and their car. They were part of the gang and would have been considered trouble makers. And the boss guy certainly didn't have a history, there would have been security cameras outside his work too. I don't understand how gangshim was conned out of 200k and couldn't do anything about it. I don't understand how the youngest was on the hook for that contract where they took his hand to put him fingerprint on the document for $1000 worth of pills the first episode. How is that a legal enforceable contract?

    What I don't understand is making doctors seem poverty striken and in a lower place in society than how is everyone else supposed to feel? The tofu maker put three kids through school and took care of all living expenses including trips abroad for the older son well into their midtwenties and midthirties.